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6 Ways to Stay Sober at a Party This Memorial Day Weekend [Updated May 21, 2019]

May 21, 2019

You CAN Stay Sober At A Party This Summer

How can you stay sober at a party this weekend? With Memorial Day (and many more summer themed celebrations) on the horizon, challenges might be right around the corner. The combination of summer sun, free flowing alcohol and food, and a carefree attitude might create an environment that triggers a relapse. It’s important to plan your schedule accordingly.

You are going to a celebration, so prepare yourself beforehand to stay sober at a party. You’re sober and would like to stay that way. Consider the issues that might trigger a relapse.

How are you going to deal with the presence of alcohol and seeing others drink? How will you deal with the possibility that there may be drugs at the party? Will there be people there who might not respect your sobriety?

These are all things to consider. Here are six tips for how to stay sober at a party and stick with your sober mindset.

1. Take a Sober Friend with You (Or Have a Lifeline)

When you have a sober friend accompany you to the party, you are not alone in abstaining from drugs or alcohol. Further, it is also good to have your like-minded buddy to lean on if temptation should arise. Conversely, if you cannot take someone with you then arrange for a call during the party to chat with a close friend or your sponsor.1

2. Go to a Meeting Before the Party

Attend a recovery meeting before you go to the party. Discuss in the meeting that you’ll be attending a party and explain your concerns. Frequently, members of the group will be able to offer additional tips or guidance for navigating social situations.

After the meeting, you will come away feeling fortified and more confident. That means you are ready to stay sober at a party.

3. Be Prepared for Questions

People at the party may pry and ask why you aren’t drinking alcohol. In that case, have a prepared answer on hand. Being prepared makes it easier to avoid feeling pressured or embarrassed when you’re caught off guard. Plus, it puts you in control of your situation.

A simple answer such as, “I don’t drink.” should suffice. Most people will realize your short answer means that you do not want to have a lengthy conversation about drinking. For those who insist on discussing it further, you can politely explain that you’d rather not talk about it.

In the event they become more insistent, simply remove yourself from the area with a direct and polite “Excuse me.” Leave the room for a short time, or go to speak to someone else. After all, you are not obligated to answer anyone’s questions if you are not comfortable talking about it.

4. Serve Yourself to Stay Sober at a Party

At the party, serve yourself your own beverages. It is too easy for someone else to unwittingly make a mistake and give you an alcoholic drink. Even though the intentions may not be bad, the results can be disastrous.

Plus, someone with more nefarious motives may purposely do it. Safeguard yourself and stay sober at a party by getting your own drinks. That is just one more way you can remain in control and build your confidence for future gatherings.

5. Be Prepared for Drink Offers

Always keep a glass or red cup of water or seltzer in your hand, and put a slice of lemon or lime on the rim. This cup or glass will discourage people from offering you a drink because they see one already in your hand.2 If you’re caught without a glass and someone offers you a drink, politely decline—no explanations needed.

6. Have an Exit Plan

Keep your car keys or taxi money in your pocket. You want to have an exit plan that you can execute immediately. And that plan will come in handy if, for example, drugs appear unexpectedly, or if you suddenly feel overwhelmed by temptations to drink, you can leave right away. Do not try to test your resolve; it is always better to leave immediately. You can do it.

The road to recovery is filled with challenges. On that road, going to a celebration is one in a long list of trials you’ll deal with. Your plan to stay sober at a party, as well as staying abstinent throughout your life, can be handled with grace under pressure when you are prepared properly.

BONUS: Access Your Own Inner MAXIMUM STRENGTH to Stay Sober For Good

Maximum Strength is the best-selling novel from author and renowned treatment counselor Ross Remien. The book presents an autobiographical look at Ross’s life as an addict and treatment counselor. And the story offers an inside perspective on a broken treatment industry as a whole.

The book details battling with his own demons and addictions for nearly two decades and how Ross finally overcame a broken treatment system and got sober for good. Because of his own journey, he has been on a mission since then to help others find lasting sobriety and has helped thousands in their recovery journey.

The book is an autobiographical look at Ross’s life and journey through addiction, relapse, and lasting sobriety. Each chapter is relatable and readable on it’s own. You can order your copy by clicking here.


References:

  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-high-functioning-alcoholic/200911/the-holidays-survival-guide-sober-alcoholics
  2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-high-functioning-alcoholic/201012/how-have-happy-sober-holidays

Updates: Additional context and tips for staying sober this summer and the updated release of Maximum Strength.

6 Ways to Stay Sober at a Party This Memorial Day Weekend [Updated May 21, 2019]

May 21, 2019

You CAN Stay Sober At A Party This Summer

How can you stay sober at a party this weekend? With Memorial Day (and many more summer themed celebrations) on the horizon, challenges might be right around the corner. The combination of summer sun, free flowing alcohol and food, and a carefree attitude might create an environment that triggers a relapse. It’s important to plan your schedule accordingly.

You are going to a celebration, so prepare yourself beforehand to stay sober at a party. You’re sober and would like to stay that way. Consider the issues that might trigger a relapse.

How are you going to deal with the presence of alcohol and seeing others drink? How will you deal with the possibility that there may be drugs at the party? Will there be people there who might not respect your sobriety?

These are all things to consider. Here are six tips for how to stay sober at a party and stick with your sober mindset.

1. Take a Sober Friend with You (Or Have a Lifeline)

When you have a sober friend accompany you to the party, you are not alone in abstaining from drugs or alcohol. Further, it is also good to have your like-minded buddy to lean on if temptation should arise. Conversely, if you cannot take someone with you then arrange for a call during the party to chat with a close friend or your sponsor.1

2. Go to a Meeting Before the Party

Attend a recovery meeting before you go to the party. Discuss in the meeting that you’ll be attending a party and explain your concerns. Frequently, members of the group will be able to offer additional tips or guidance for navigating social situations.

After the meeting, you will come away feeling fortified and more confident. That means you are ready to stay sober at a party.

3. Be Prepared for Questions

People at the party may pry and ask why you aren’t drinking alcohol. In that case, have a prepared answer on hand. Being prepared makes it easier to avoid feeling pressured or embarrassed when you’re caught off guard. Plus, it puts you in control of your situation.

A simple answer such as, “I don’t drink.” should suffice. Most people will realize your short answer means that you do not want to have a lengthy conversation about drinking. For those who insist on discussing it further, you can politely explain that you’d rather not talk about it.

In the event they become more insistent, simply remove yourself from the area with a direct and polite “Excuse me.” Leave the room for a short time, or go to speak to someone else. After all, you are not obligated to answer anyone’s questions if you are not comfortable talking about it.

4. Serve Yourself to Stay Sober at a Party

At the party, serve yourself your own beverages. It is too easy for someone else to unwittingly make a mistake and give you an alcoholic drink. Even though the intentions may not be bad, the results can be disastrous.

Plus, someone with more nefarious motives may purposely do it. Safeguard yourself and stay sober at a party by getting your own drinks. That is just one more way you can remain in control and build your confidence for future gatherings.

5. Be Prepared for Drink Offers

Always keep a glass or red cup of water or seltzer in your hand, and put a slice of lemon or lime on the rim. This cup or glass will discourage people from offering you a drink because they see one already in your hand.2 If you’re caught without a glass and someone offers you a drink, politely decline—no explanations needed.

6. Have an Exit Plan

Keep your car keys or taxi money in your pocket. You want to have an exit plan that you can execute immediately. And that plan will come in handy if, for example, drugs appear unexpectedly, or if you suddenly feel overwhelmed by temptations to drink, you can leave right away. Do not try to test your resolve; it is always better to leave immediately. You can do it.

The road to recovery is filled with challenges. On that road, going to a celebration is one in a long list of trials you’ll deal with. Your plan to stay sober at a party, as well as staying abstinent throughout your life, can be handled with grace under pressure when you are prepared properly.

BONUS: Access Your Own Inner MAXIMUM STRENGTH to Stay Sober For Good

Maximum Strength is the best-selling novel from author and renowned treatment counselor Ross Remien. The book presents an autobiographical look at Ross’s life as an addict and treatment counselor. And the story offers an inside perspective on a broken treatment industry as a whole.

The book details battling with his own demons and addictions for nearly two decades and how Ross finally overcame a broken treatment system and got sober for good. Because of his own journey, he has been on a mission since then to help others find lasting sobriety and has helped thousands in their recovery journey.

The book is an autobiographical look at Ross’s life and journey through addiction, relapse, and lasting sobriety. Each chapter is relatable and readable on it’s own. You can order your copy by clicking here.


References:

  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-high-functioning-alcoholic/200911/the-holidays-survival-guide-sober-alcoholics
  2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-high-functioning-alcoholic/201012/how-have-happy-sober-holidays

Updates: Additional context and tips for staying sober this summer and the updated release of Maximum Strength.

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