Ten years ago, I was in a meeting with one of my counselors. At that point I had been through seven treatment programs, and my counselor asked me what I was going to start doing differently. My response was, "I don't know. I'm just trying to find myself."
He stopped me in my tracks and said, "You've got to stop doing that."
I was flabbergasted and confused, so he continued, "You can't go through life trying to find yourself. You need to go through this world creating who you want to be. That way you'll be creating opportunities for yourself rather than watching life go by. You need to get involved."
In that instant, my life finally started to change. He made it sound doable for the first time. I listened, and I started to build the person I wanted to be and the life I wanted to live. I took an active role, made a rock-solid game plan, surrounded myself with people who could help me accomplish that plan, and I did it. And I work in that same direction of my recovery journey every day, to this day.
You can't go to the gym until you lose 20 pounds and then immediately stop going and hope that 20 pounds stays gone for life. That's not how it works, and it's not how recovery works either.
What I learned in my recovery journey, I can teach anyone.
Let's create your team and surround you with people who will listen and who care about what you want in your life. Successful people don't live one day at a time. They build that clear plan, build their team and work toward the goal every day.